In the grand scheme of things, I’m fully aware that a Wedding is the least of priorities when considering Coronavirus as a whole. People are literally dying, healthcare workers are exhausted and risking their lives constantly. Countless of people have lost their jobs and the ability to support themselves. There is so much going on in the world right now, and its hard to feel like your wedding is important. However, that doesn’t mean your feelings are invalid, and I sincerely say that as a COVID-19 Bride.
Prioritize Your Mental Health
I think it’s important to note that if you’re feeling overwhelmed, upset, or defeated over Corona related wedding issues, that is OKAY. We’re all adults, we all realize there are more important things in the world going on. BUT we’re all still humans with emotions and feelings that need to be expressed. It’s not healthy or good for your mental health, NOT to express these feelings. While you might be trying to maintain sensitivity towards those who are/have family dying and on the front lines of this pandemic, we still need to take care of our personal well-being. Acknowledging your emotions and mental state and dealing with it, is equally important.
Sincerely, A COVID-19 Bride
I am sincerely, so so sorry, for all the COVID-19 Brides that had to cancel. Whether it was a bridal shower, or bach party. Frankly, it SUCKS. It sucks to have spent so much time planning these life events, to have a pandemic occur. My heart breaks for the brides whose vendors refused to re-schedule or provide refunds for payments. I hate that your financial losses may prevent you from having the option to celebrate in the future.
If you decided to go ahead and celebrate your day at home, or via face-time, or elope I’m still sorry. I hate that your day didn’t turn out the way you envisioned it. I can only imagine how difficult it was to start this exciting chapter of life without your parents, family and friends.
If your wedding has yet to come, but may potentially be affected like mine, I’m sorry. Dealing with the anxiety, stress, and fear is definitely not how this exciting and happy time was meant to be. If you’re concerned guests might back out because of this, I’m sorry. I’ll say it again, THIS SUCKS. But just know, you’re not alone. There is a whole tribe of family, friends, and other brides that are in your corner.
Remember, it’s not just brides in this position. High-schoolers and college graduates in their senior year can no longer walk across that platform. Hours of dress hunting and planning may now seem worthless for a now cancelled prom. Years spent looking forward to and saving for senior-trip is defeating. Baby showers that can no longer be spent with the ones you love. Family reunions are out of the question. Honeymoons and anniversary trips no longer possible. Heck, even funerals have been disrupted.
The point is it’s okay to feel upset about it, but what you do after this moment can make all the difference for your mental health. Take the time you need to feel, to cry, and to vent. Do what you need to do! But afterwards, focus on the positives.
The Next Steps
Focus on the love you have, or the family and friends in your corner. Be thankful for your health, and your security. Find something constructive to fill your time. Whether that be focusing on the fun parts of being engaged, or making a Plan-B for your wedding and updating your guests on the status of your wedding. Do something to keep yourself focused. If you’ve had to postpone, consider getting started on the re-planning your postponed nuptials! Or focus on something entirely separate from your wedding. Try volunteering to assist with the Corona pandemic. From translating at hospitals to making masks from home there are many ways we can all help. Maybe learn a new skill or focus on a hobby! Now is the perfect time to do so.
Do something, anything at all, that will help you make some lemonade out of lemons! Remember, you’re not alone. We’re all in this together and we’ll get through this stronger and more connected.
Sincerely, a COVID-19 Bride.